According 'the Secret'. There is a process called "Creative Process". This process used to created what you want. Whole process consisted of 3 steps:
We talk about the first step. It is about ask. This step is a normal thing to do. But sometimes people don't dare to do it. If you were raised under the image of a negative universe, you may walk around with a constant sense of guilt and fear that the universe is just waiting for a chance to zap you for doing something wrong. This fear is quite intense in some people, so much so that they are afraid to even ask for what they want because the universe might deem them greedy or selfish.
This is a little case for example but for a reminder it is not about religion. I went to a temple with my friend to said a pray. I'm Buddhist actually. We start to praying, he just follow what I did. After we finished, we have a little chat.
He: "When people praying, they just asking for wealthy, healthy and happiness, am I wrong?"
Me: (I stared at him for a moment) "I don't know with other people, but yes, I asked for that.
He: "I couldn't see how people will got what they want just with pray." (he smile cynically)
Looking at him and at the moment I smiled. We change to another topic while we walk to the car park.
“Ask and ye shall receive.” It’s a true enough statement, that’s for sure. In order to get what we want, we have to know what we want. To know what we want, we have to think about it, feel about it, make determinations about it (okay, this is what I want), and then, once we know what we want, we have to focus on it.
Focusing, then, takes on a twofold meaning: focusing in terms of honing in on your desires (determining what they are) and focusing in terms of concentrating joyously on what you’ve determined your desires to be. This is how we ask the Universe to manifest our desires, and this is how we align ourselves with receiving them.
"Asking is the beginning of receiving. Make sure you don't go to the ocean with a teaspoon. At least take a bucket so the kids won't laugh at you."